...through a nervous system lens Life-changing experiences that happen to us,  are all experiences that can overwhelm the nervous system and leave lasting imprints. Trauma isn’t defined by the event itself, but by what happens inside us when something exceeds our capacity to cope. For some people, trauma shows up in ways that are recognisable and named: post-traumatic stress responses. Flashbacks. Disturbing dreams. A sense of reliving what happened. A body that feels perman

Many people who have experienced adversity grow up to be exceptionally capable. They are organised. Reliable. Emotionally intelligent in professional settings. They anticipate needs, manage complexity, hold responsibility, and perform under pressure. From the outside, they look confident, successful, composed. And yet, in relationships, they may feel confused, overwhelmed, unsure of themselves, or perpetually disappointed. This contrast can be deeply unsettling. It often carr

This is such a common experience, but rarely talked about For some people, rest feels like relief. For others, it feels like threat. This is a common experience, though it is rarely named. You sit down. You stop. The noise quietens, and instead of calm, something stirs. Restlessness. Guilt. A low-level anxiety. A sense that you should be doing  something, fixing something, staying alert. If this is you, nothing has gone wrong. When you have spent long periods of your life nee